Are You or a Friend or Family Member in the Process of Divorce, if so join me as I Share valuable tips and support you can use today.
Recently, a close friend reached out to me, heart heavy with the weight of her impending divorce. Her reasoning was I had experience, unfortunately, from a previous divorce. As she poured out her fears and uncertainties. I had a little experience with Divorce and she wanted my input. It got me thinking about the importance of supporting loved ones through such difficult times, which inspired me to share some insights on surviving a divorce. So, dear readers, join me on this journey….my hope is that you will never need this advice but you have it as reference to friends and family that may need your support. Believe me “the struggle “ is Real!
Divorces are never easy, even when your relationship with your ex-partner is amicable. There are always complications to getting a divorce that you may not expect. Perhaps you’ll go through a range of different feelings. Divorce is not the end of the story.
Maybe you’ll find it difficult to divide your assets evenly or agree on child custody arrangements. It’s never exactly as you expect it to be so it can help to be prepared for any eventuality. Here are some tips on how to get through your divorce unscathed.
Let Yourself Feel
Even if you’re okay with the separation, you may feel a range of emotions during your divorce. These emotions are totally normal and you shouldn’t force yourself to feel any different. Allow yourself to process your divorce through these emotions and prioritize self-care. You can recreate this tranquil atmosphere at home with these simple steps.
It as simple as filling your bathroom with aromatic smells and having the gentle sound music playing in the background, sit back and breathe deeply and let go of any stress.
However, avoid acting on your emotions by reacting to news in the moment. If you react badly publicly it could impact the result of your divorce in court. For instance, it could affect the child custody agreement (if applicable).
Know Your Finances
When you go through a divorce, it’s important to understand what is rightfully yours and what’s not. You can discuss this with your ex-partner if you’re able to so you’re both on the same page. For instance, if you own property together, it may be worth discussing who gets the property and using a quitclaim deed to transfer ownership. Other joint debt or finances should also be discussed so you can arrange payments or division of assets. This may not be an easy agreement to come to but if you and your ex-partner can agree, it will stop the courts from needing to get involved.
Get Support
Emotional support is essential when you’re going through a divorce. Lean on family and friends who can understand what you’re going through and offer good advice. If you don’t feel you can rely on family and friends for support, there are other ways to gain the support you need.
For instance, there are many support groups online and within your community that you can join. This is a place to connect with people who are going through the same thing and find some emotional relief.
Avoid “Power” Struggles
Divorces aren’t always amicable. In many cases, partners don’t want the same things and there may be tension and disagreements. Try and avoid a power struggle with your ex-partner so you don’t make the process harder on yourself.
As hard as it may be, try your best to communicate well with your ex-partner, even if your ex-partner is saying things to trigger you. Think of the end goal and do what you need to do to get there.
Tip:
Consider using a coparenting app such as Our Family Wizard, to ease scheduling issues and help keep track of children’s busy timetables.
When I was experiencing Divorce, I had read somewhere how to Use SMART goals to take back control. This process of planning, (from Psyche Magazine) it will help you set your intentions for the first year or two post-divorce. Here are easy Steps:
Specific (simple, sensible, significant)
Maintaining Friendships and continuing activities for yourself and/or include children.
Measurable (meaningful, motivating)
Listening to Podcast, watching you Tube Videos all with these goals in mind.
Achievable (attainable)
Like any goal we set make it realistic. If you dont succeed…..try, try, again.
Relevant (reasonable, realistic and resourced, results-based)
Perhaps joining a group of others who also have been recently divorced
Time-bound (time-based, time-limited, time/cost-limited, timely, time-sensitive)
Commit to myself to take a 30-minute walk every day with or without the children, and do some sort of cardio. Keep an exercise log. If you stick to it for 30 days, buy yourself a new item (clothing, home, or even dinner with friends).
Keep in touch with your family. They are your “comfort zone.”
Make plans with friends or family for the Christmas break. Even if your Children May be with their Father, so that you are not alone. Don’t isolate yourself from others.
Knowledge is Power
I am a firm believer in reading, not only does it give your soul nourishment it gives you power. Your power is knowledge. I have put together four excellent and highly recommended books on all subjects covered in this post today:
Conscious Uncoupling – Katherine Woodward Thomas
Healing After Loss– Martha Whitmore Hickman
My Favorites are:
The Soul of Money
Good Vibes, Good Life
Conclusion
In your journey through divorce or you may be supporting someone going through a Divorce, remember to embrace your emotions and grant yourself the space to heal. By understanding your finances and seeking support from loved ones, you’re empowering yourself for a brighter future ahead. Steer clear of power struggles, focusing instead on open communication and cooperation. Set SMART goals to guide your path forward with clarity and confidence. With each step you take, know that you’re moving towards a happier, more fulfilling chapter in your life.
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